A famous writer once said that there is no experience you go through in life that is wasted. This took me back to the pain of losing both my father and mother . At a time I thought I was old enough not to be so affect by that kind of pain. I only woke up to realise that this is the kind of pain that changes you as a person forever and you have to live with it each day.
Then i get to a point in life where i ask myself, what do i do with this pain that doesnt go away. We learn to just live with each day of our lives. Nobody talks about it freely especially in the african culture setting. It will crip up on you when you least expect it always.
I used to scold my son when he tried to communicated that he needed his mother some times more than he needed me his father. It sometimes made me feel a certain way,till one time i got a light bulb moment. If i miss my own mother at this age of 40 something then what about this young boy who is not 5 years old at all. Helloooo!!!!!!
I decided to channel my pain of losing both my parents after being thier family caregiver in to a business, yes!!! Carelath Services Ltd –http://www.carealthservices.comwas birthed from the pain i still hold deeply in my heart. I am comforted that ,i am putting it to grater use each day as i heal and help another family caregiver out of the woods.
So no matter your past or present trauma you went through , you might need to tap in to just that to find your purpose in this life. This will change your perspective on your whole life as long as you stay authentic, disciplined and resilent .@menslifecoached
Life is a beautiful tapestry of stories, interwoven with moments of joy, strength, and resilience.
Today, we gather to honor the cherished story of Rosemary Dumba Kasalirwe.
In the chapters of our lives, Rosemary played a crucial role, becoming a beacon of strength after the loss of our father. From her own experiences as an orphan, she displayed unwavering determination, teaching us all to face life’s challenges head-on.
Rosemary’s story, so dear to our hearts, is one that will be passed down through generations. It is a tale of love, laughter, and dance, leaving a lasting impact on each of us fortunate enough to have known her.
As we reflect on her life, we are reminded of the power of authenticity. Rosemary’s genuine character touched the lives of many, shining a light on the true meaning of family and friendship.
While we may encounter negativity or judgment along life’s journey, let us remember Rosemary’s unwavering spirit. She faced adversity with grace and left a legacy of love that will forever inspire us.
In our own stories, let us strive to be true to ourselves and to those around us. May we cherish our loved ones, celebrating their presence while they are with us, and extending forgiveness and understanding when they depart.
“In the end we will all become stories.” Margret Atwood
Mummy Rosemary, may you continue to rest peacefully among the angels. Your love and light will always be treasured and missed.
On a day filled with anxiety and anticipation, my partner and I made our way to our scheduled antenatal check-up. Our hearts were heavy with worry as we inched closer to our expected delivery date. However, my partner’s restless night had taken a toll on her, leaving her visibly drained and worn out. Our arrival at Nakasero Hospital brought a glimmer of hope, as we sought solace in the expertise of our doctor. With genuine concern, he delved into a series of probing questions, determined to grasp the full extent of my partner’s struggles. Recognizing the gravity of the situation, he promptly ordered a thorough blood test, leaving no stone unturned in the quest to provide her with optimal care.
When the results arrived, it painted a worrisome picture. It turned out that she had a severe case of malaria, with the test showing a high positive result. It was clear that immediate action was needed to protect both my wife and our unborn baby. The doctor wasted no time in admitting her, ensuring she received prompt treatment to safeguard the health of our precious little one.
I’m sorry to hear about the challenging circumstances you and your family faced. It must have been a terribly distressing time for you all. The unexpected redundancy and the urgent need for medical care can be overwhelming. It’s understandable that you were left feeling lost and anxious about how to manage the situation.
It’s disheartening when we rely on the support of our friends and family during such difficult moments, only to find that they are unable to assist. That added disappointment must have made the situation all the more challenging.
I can only imagine the mixture of emotions you experienced when leaving your wife in the hospital while trying to take care of your first-born daughter. It must have been a heavy burden to bear, juggling the needs of your family during such a crucial time.
The anxiety surrounding the labor and the baby’s unstable heartbeat must have been a nerve-wracking experience. I truly hope that the prayers of your loved ones brought comfort and that the natural birth went as smoothly as possible.
It’s heartwarming to hear that despite the difficulties, your family was blessed with a healthy baby boy. The overwhelming gratitude you felt in that precious moment is truly understandable. And I’m glad to hear that the financial burden was eventually lightened, thanks to the generosity and support of your cousin and your loved ones. It must have brought you great relief to be able to leave the hospital with both joy in your heart and without the weight of a hefty bill.
I hope that things have improved for you and your family since then. Remember to lean on your support system during challenging times, as they can provide immense comfort and assistance.
Day one at Home
We were absolutely overwhelmed by the sheer magnitude of love and divine intervention that surrounded us during that difficult time. Our hearts brimmed with gratitude as we witnessed the incredible ways in which God utilized our loved ones to strengthen our faith. Every single expense was miraculously taken care of, allowing us to receive the finest medical care without burdening our wallets. It remains etched in our souls, an indelible reminder of how deeply God cherishes us. We christened our precious little one “#MUKISA,” meaning “Blessing,” because that’s exactly what he embodied – a profound blessing that illuminated our lives even amidst the darkest moments. Gratitude floods our hearts as we acknowledge these miraculous interventions, giving us the unshakable belief that God is always by our side, attending to our every need.
Unleash the power of relinquishing control and embrace the exhilarating freedom that comes with it!
In our ceaseless quest for dominance over our environment, we unknowingly subject ourselves to countless stresses, miring our lives in discontent. We tirelessly strive to mold our financial status, relationships, children, business, career, and health into a neat little box that aligns with our meticulous plans. But let me share an eye-opening truth with you, one that has been brilliantly articulated by the esteemed speaker, Srikumar Rao…
“We have a rigid idea of how the universe should be, and the universe is not playing ball.”
Allow those words to sink deep into your being. Marvel at their wisdom. Marvel at their simplicity.
As someone who has traversed the winding roads of marriage for nearly six years, raising two cherished children along the way, I can attest to the life-altering power of releasing our ironclad grip on control. I, too, once found myself entangled in the suffocating clutches of obsession. Every minor deviation from my meticulously crafted plans sent shockwaves of anxiety through my veins. The strain became so intense that it manifested itself in debilitating migraines that seemed impervious to any remedy known to humankind.
It was only when I heeded Rao’s profound insight that I saw the light. I discovered that true fulfillment comes from leading with love, compassion, and understanding, rather than attempting to reign over every aspect of our lives.
Can you imagine the liberation that comes from relinquishing control? The sheer bliss of dancing with the unpredictable rhythms of life, rather than desperately trying to tame them?
Embrace the beauty of surrender. Embrace the wondrous and exhilarating freedom that accompanies it. Let your heart pound with excitement as you peel off the shackles of control. Be the captain of your own ship, guiding it with grace and acceptance rather than tyrannical domination.
Remember, my friend, the universe delights in playing its own game. So, release your notion of how things should be, and embark on a thrilling journey filled with unexpected twists and turns. Life is meant to be lived, not controlled. Embrace the magnificent chaos and savour every moment of this wild, unpredictable ride!
Dad and Daughter Time
In a moment of profound revelation, I came to the profound realization that I, and I alone, held the remarkable power to be the architect of my own stress. It was a sobering fact that I had squandered countless hours in relentless pursuit of an elusive concept: perfection within the confines of my humble abode. But no more! With fiery determination coursing through my veins, I summoned the courage to release my grip on these burdensome expectations. Now, in the face of mounting stress, I ask myself just two piercing questions, serving as beacons of clarity in a chaotic world. Oh, how liberating it feels to unshackle myself from the chains of stress and embrace a simpler, happier existence!
Is it life-threatening if not handled right this minute?
Will it really matter a week from now?
Then I take two very deep breathes and walk away physically and mentally from the situation.
The fact of the matter is
· We do NOT have control
· We never have control
· We never WILL have control
Control is a myth. We only have the illusion of control.
Instead, let us learn to love moreunconditionallyespecially when it comes to our family
Learning to let go of control is one of the key ways we will eliminate stress and anxiety in our lives.
In this modern era, despite numerous advancements and opportunities for social connection, it is perplexing to observe the struggles faced by men over the age of 40 in building close and deep friendships with fellow males.
